Monday, December 10, 2007

The Age of Innocence Must be Protected

Recently I took my granddaughter to see Enchanted, a wonderful and very cute fantasy kiddie movie. The movie theater was one of those mega theaters with at least sixteen movie options - which makes it a favorite amongst my movie-going friends; however, it tends not to be one of my "favorites" simply because there are so many children and young people hanging out at the huge arcade area that is located at one of the entrances.

This salient fact was not wasted on me during my last visit to the theater with my granddaughter. It was then that I realized that for the very same reason I didn't particularly care for the theater, there exists an entire sub-group of nefarious individuals (who represent a culture of predators) who take a particular delight in being in environments that are populated with young children - these people are known to us as pedophiles.

As soon as my granddaughter and I entered the theater, there sitting alone in the first seat was a man who looked to be in his late thirty's. Being more observant than paranoid, I noticed how an uneasy smile slowly plastered across his face as we passed by him to find a seat. Initially I thought it odd that he was there alone and dismissed his attendance with the thought that he was more than likely waiting for his own children to return from purchasing snacks. Or maybe he was just sitting in a different location to allow his kids some breathing space. This wasn't the case, no children ever materialized - he was there alone.

Soon the movie trailers began. My granddaughter leaned over to me to innocently ask, "Shouldn't the lights go down?" I hope not, I thought to myself; better up than down. At that point yet another lone man walked into the theater and sat several seats over from my granddaughter and myself. Okay, believe it or not, I do not suffer from fits of paranoia. I just find it very disconcerting and not at all too coincidental to see two lone men sitting in a kiddie movie. "What grown man comes into a movie theater to see a very "Disney-type" movie - especially when there are at least twelve other adult films being shown? This is my thinking. Need I say more?

It finally dawned on me. What better place for a pedophile to hang out than at a movie that appeals to children, little girls in particular? This very sobering realization caused me to start preaching to my eight year old granddaughter (in whispers) what she must do if she ever feels threatened by a stranger:

  • Immediately shout in a loud voice, "I don't know you, you're not my dad/mom!"
  • Scream at the top of your lungs and fight back if he/she touches you.
  • Try to identify an adult that you can go to for help.
  • And never believe anything that they may tell you about your family, e.g., "Your mom told me to pick you up," or "I'm going to hurt your mother if you don't come with me."

After this unsolicited tirade, my somewhat confused grandchild looked at me as if I had been struck by lightening - and I had. Pedophiles have all kinds of tricks in their bag and it is up to us to keep our children safe at all times. Pedophiles unfortunately look just like you and I. There is no clear way to discern who they are. They come in all shapes, sizes and colors. However without becoming paranoid vigilantes we can pay closer attention to our environs and those where we place our children. It is important that we inculcate into our children these very important daily reminders, for I would rather be paranoid than very sorry. Anytime you find a man sitting alone in a kiddie movie, you can more than likely rest assured that he is not there for the aesthetic content of the film; he's either prospecting or just fulfilling his/her desire to be near younger children.

Our job as parents and grandparents is to protect our children's age of innocence even though the mere fact of having to inform them of this human aberration somehow in itself diminishes their innocence. We have to stand vigilant in our efforts to let these very sick people know that we are closely watching them and are determined that our children will remain uninitiated into a world of abuse and confusion at the hands of those whom, if they actually do know the difference between right and wrong and good and evil, have no control over not hurting the most innocent of those amongst us. encourages us all to be very mindful and observant - wherever we take our children - especially in the most innocuous environments like the movies!

Saturday, December 08, 2007

New Native American Doll

Finally she's here! After searching for many, many months (throughout the toy industry) we've found the Native American doll that you've been waiting for.

Cathy, from Corolle, is the newest addition to the family. Standing 13" tall with long jet black straight hair, a warm skin tone and indigenous features, she more closely resembles the Native American people than any other doll currently on the market.

Not only is Cathy a perfect gift for young Native American girls -- as she represents the culture of the first indigenous Americans -- she is also the perfect gift for all young girls. Cathy is a wonderful choice to be added to a young girl's doll collection by parents who are highly aware and sensitive to the importance of teaching tolerance, understanding and acceptance to their young daughters.

Cathy, along with all of the family of toys, represents another opportunity for parents to expand their daughter's cultural quotient, while teaching that beauty comes in a myriad of colors and various shapes, sizes and nationalities. You're going to love adding Cathy to your child's collection.

Friday, September 28, 2007

You Asked and We Found...Greeting Cards Featuring Asian Children

You asked us to find quality adoption and birthday greeting cards featuring Asian children. Well, we found them...and they are gorgeous! These full-color greeting cards are printed on beautiful, heavyweight stock and are as appropriate for keeping (we had them mounted and framed for our office) as they are for giving. When we saw them, we were reminded of the story on our Transracial Adoption Resources page, where the adopted girl got upset when she saw the cards that were sent when she arrived, asking "Was I supposed to have been white?" Sometimes even the most innocent and well-meaning actions have an impact on a child's self-esteem, and we never really know until it's too late. We added 13 new cards from the Great ExpectAsians line, including this adorable Rice Baby new arrival card. They are stunning and culturally sensitive. Stop by and take a look at the new baby, birthday, thank you, holiday and blank greeting cards.

Monday, September 03, 2007

Join Our "Positive Self-Esteem" Parenting Seminar & Multicultural Family Cruise

We're often asked to develop more resources on positive self-esteem parenting as it relates to children of color. The whole issue of children wishing they could be White so they could beautiful is heartbreaking. We have consulted several experts on the topic and most agree that poor self-esteem probably begins to develop roots as early as 2 - 3 years - when children start noticing images of people around them, on television, in the movies, in toys, and in books.

Parents often convince themselves that the images surrounding very young children are not "all that important," only to discover later (when their Asian, Black or Biracial child starts longing to look White, or have straight hair, or begins to shun dolls and toys that look like them) that it really is "all that important."

In an effort to help address some of these issues, and to arm parents with the resources and information needed to develop strong, self-confident children, we have developed a Multicultural Family Cruise featuring a Positive Self-Esteem Parenting Seminar. July 6 - 12, 2008 multicultural families from all over North America will join us for six nights of fun, games, contests, prizes and free parenting workshops - all designed with your family in mind. We'll cruise from New York Harbor to the Bahamas and Florida onboard the Norwegian Cruise Line's ship Spirit - selected for its family friendly freestyle cruising environment. For more information, or to register, visit our Website at or call 888-711-3046.


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